Ladies, we all know what it feels like to daydream about that moment your man gets down on one knee, pulls out a ring box and pops the biggest and most important question you will ever hear in your life.. "Will you marry me?"... And you may also dream about some sappy adorable other things he will add in there when asking you to be his wife.
We dream about the gorgeous dress, the beautiful flowers and decorations.. We dream about a totally blissful, problem free engagement.. The wonderful cake, the constant grinning and fairy-tale feeling.. Well I hate to burst your bubble, but speaking as a girl that's been engaged for getting close to 8 months now.. It isn't all frills, bubbly-ness.. It isn't every single thing you have ever dreamed of since you were 6.
Now don't freak out, being engaged is wonderful.. If you have found the right man of course (don't settle!). And that moment he gets down on one knee is absolute bliss. You will have butterflies throughout your engagement, and planning a wedding can be very fun, and that moment you find your dress is unforgettable. So no, I am not trying to make this sound bad. I have absolutely loved this time.. For the most part.. I'm just bringing a little reality to your door step.
Planning a wedding, while fun, is very stressful. You never realize how much work it entails when you're out there daydreaming about it. And the money, holy cow.. Ouch! Weddings truly are a multi-million dollar industry! It really smacks you in the face with perspective.
Ladies.. Please do no let yourselves get caught up in going completely all out for your wedding.. Unless of course you really have the money to do so. Do keep certain things you have dreamed of, but definitely prioritize and figure out what means the most to you.. And budget! Don't just go into things blindly without setting certain amounts you want to spend on everything.
Remember that your wedding day fades.. And after that is real life. A wonderful life that you get to create with your new husband. And that right there is the most important part. Not whether or not you have the absolute best caterer, not whether your dress is designer or off the rack.. All those things fade into memories of one day.
Your wedding day IS important, never let anyone tell you otherwise. Just don't let it all go to your head. Don't let your self get into thinking that it's the biggest and most important thing ever.. It's okay to give up some things in order to have a good life in the after math of your wedding day. Is it really worth going into debt to get that limo that'll drive you a block away from your venue to get to your own car? It it?
For a while it was hard for me to come to terms that my wedding needed to be a budget wedding, I wanted EVERYTHING I had dreamed of. And I was prepared to do anything to make it happen. But then I talked to my very wise fiance, and a very wise newly-wed.. And they made me see the light.
Your wedding can be beautiful without squishing absolutely everything I found on Pinterest in there.
For me though a good wedding photographer and a good videographer meant a lot to me. So I didn't give those up, but I did choose other things to give up in order to have those.. Such as having the best venue out there, and having a bunch of flower arrangements. Like I said, prioritize, choose a few things you can't give up, then decide what you will give up in order to make them happen.
For me, keeping the memories of our wedding through video and pictures meant the most to me, it meant more than stuff and food that would disappear after on night.. I wanted something that would last forever..
So, what means the most to you?
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